Documentary Wedding Photographer | Ron and Ann

My husband and I have been married for four and a half years.  Before we got married, we thought we wanted kids. One boy, one girl, and a dog would have been my ideal. He wanted two girls, thinking that girls would be easier to raise. At least until they turn sixteen and start dating.

As the years went by, we kept postponing our plans to start having kids. We did get our dog, who is basically our child now.  We’ve been holding off mainly because we’re both busy with work. And also because we’re both afraid. Are we ready and responsible enough to raise another human being? Will I be a good mother? I’ve read too many stories, seen too many movies and documentaries where a child’s life was ruined by the decisions their parents made. Too melodramatic, I know. But these things are always in the back of my mind whenever someone asks the dreaded questions, “do you have kids yet?”

The reason I brought this up was because a couple of days ago, I came across a photo from Tracy and Brad’s wedding when I was choosing which photos to blog. It was an image of a candid moment between Tracy’s parents, Ron and Ann, while Tracy and Brad exchanged vows.  When the couples exchange vows, my focus usually will be with the couple but I also check out how the guests are reacting behind me. When I turned to see Ron and Ann, I caught them looking at each other. Their expression only lasted a few seconds but I caught it at the right time and to me, those expressions made the image memorable.

I wouldn’t know exactly the story behind that moment but to me, it represents a parent’s joy of their daughter finding love; a parent’s pride on raising a beautiful and intelligent woman; and the fruit of a couple’s dedication to each other and to the family they have created.  I look at this image and I realize that although I have these fears, I do want what Ron and Ann have. I won’t be popping kids anytime soon but I do want one someday. Years from now, on our own daughter’s wedding, I want my husband and I to have a picture just like the one above not just because it’s a lovely moment, but because of what it means.